California Trip Report--San Diego with the Famdamily

The cold I brought back from California with me is finally starting to subside, so I will get on with my slightly-delayed Part Two of Trip Report. Please ignore the sound of snuffling in the background...

As most of you know, I combined a trip to the Pantheacon Pagan convention in San Jose with a trip to San Diego to see my family (or, as we like to say, the whole famdamily...shorthand for the whole damn family). It was a bittersweet visit, because my beloved grandmother died two days before I got there; I had REALLY been hoping to say my final goodbyes in person, but alas, it was not to be.

On the up side, I had the previously-unplanned company of my sister Sarah and wonderful brother in-law Rich (who live in Schenectady, not far from the Albany airport I fly out of), who journeyed out to SD with me so the family could be together. There we would join my parents and my youngest sister Becky, her husband Nick, and their two kids. This would be the first time in six or seven years that the three sisters would be together (we saw each other, but not all at the same time)--a tremendous bonus at any time, but especially important to us all as we came together to mourn the matriarch of the family.



That's Sarah on the left, by the way, and the ever-gorgeous Becky on the right.

My mother had been kind enough to set up a viewing for me at the crematoriam where my grandmother had been taken (Germambie had everything set up ahead, including instructions for her cremation and the disposal of the ashes--made life MUCH easier for my mom, who had to deal with the details. Make a Will, people. Fill out a Health Proxy. You never know...) so I got to say my goodbyes there. She looked very old, and very peaceful, as if she had just fallen asleep. It seems morbid, maybe, but for me, it was what I needed.

Then we all went to lunch and enjoyed each other's company. It was good. Although the weather, cold and rainy, was not was I'd been hoping for, in running away from an Upstate New York winter. Shame on you, Southern California!

Luckily, the next day brought us a morning of 65 degrees and sunny, and my sisters and brother in-law and I promptly decamped for the beach. Just the four of us, we spent a wonderful few hours walking along the ocean, decompressing and sharing our memories. Very healing, and truly a gift for the spirit that was worth crossing the continent for. Have I mentioned how much I adore my sisters (and BIL)?




Then we had lunch at a fabulous restaurant with a view of the ocean, and raised a glass to Germambie's memory.

In the evening, we had dinner with the whole famdamily, and I took this picture of the entire gang. (Minus me, of course.)



So here's the strange bit: if you look closely at the picture, you will see what looks like a bunch of little soap bubbles, scattered throughout the frame. We took a bunch of pictures in the series, in the same lighting, and they're not in any of the rest, with the exception of one picture of the three sisters together. So--nothing on the lens. Nothing in the lighting. And yet...there they are.

My writing partner Lisa says it is a phenomenon known as "Spirit Orbs" and that these are small energies that show up in the presence of a spirit. Was Germembie there, watching over her family one last time? I don't know. But still...it is a nice thought.

All in all, the trip to San Diego was lovely, and I was almost sorry to leave on Friday morning to go on to Pantheacon. Except, hey--I was going to PANTHEACON. More on that, next report.

Guest Post Author Kate George

Tomorrow I promise to put up part two of my California travel report (The Family Visit, and a final goodbye to Germambie). But for today, I have a special treat. I've been reading my author pal Kate George's first book, Moonlighting in Vermont, and her second book, California Scheming, just came out. So I asked her if she would come say hi, and talk to y'all a bit while I try to get over my cold enough to write tomorrow's blog in a semi-coherent fashion. Be sure and leave a nice comment for her, so she feels welcome, yes?

Take it away, Kate!

When I read that our Deborah was going to San Francisco I was extremely jealous. Not only is she going to a convention I would find interesting and entertaining, Deb is also going to California – The land of golden sunshine where I was born and where the majority of my remaining family live. It seems like forever since I was there, but in reality I was there last summer hanging out with my Aunts Sue and Jude and My Grandma Hilda. Gramma died shortly after I left, which wasn’t a surprise. She was getting close to one hundred years old and she had congestive heart failure.
She was good and worn out physically, but she was as lucid as I am… what am I talking about? She was more lucid that I ever was. Witty and clear headed. Hilda lived a good long life and was spared loosing any part of her mind. Her sight was pretty much gone, but she could still play a mean game of bridge. I will miss her forever but I figure she’s hanging out with my mom now so it’s all good.
You can probably tell by this post I’m not a plotter. I start in one place and my mind wanders around until it seems like a good place to end. I had no idea I was going to talk about my grandma. My thoughts about California were supposed to lead me to my latest book, California Schemin’, which is partially set in California.
I did quite a bit of my growing up in California. I was born in Sacramento and as soon as I could walk I would take off all my clothes and run giggling down the sidewalk. When my mother was alive she used tell stories about how I was a nudist. Of course when I was two we moved to a cattle ranch in the country north of Sacramento and apparently the nudity wore off. You can be nude all you want in the country and nobody says boo. Where’s the fun in that?
My attention getting tactics transformed and I started bringing the feral cats into my bedroom. I am horribly allergic to cats. (My apologies to Deb who has a house full of the lovely creatures. I love them but I cannot pet them.) I tried to hide my nefarious cat smuggling activities but two things would give me away, my eyes would swell up and I’d have a terrible time breathing. I’d be gasping for air, scratching at my puffball eyes and telling my mother “No. I didn’t bring a cat in the house.” She would then go into my room and find the terrified creature hiding in some dark corner. Furious cleaning would then ensue.
There is nothing like the wrath of a mother who is having to sterilize everything in her daughters room. That didn’t, however, keep me from bringing the kittens in the house. I was immune to my mother’s anger. Or if not immune, so enamored of little creatures that I couldn’t help myself. If it was living and I could catch it, I sneaked it into my room.
When I was six my mother bought a poodle puppy who we named Black Molly Brown after The Unsinkable Molly Brown. But the puppy was black, not brown so I insisted on the noir part of the name. I wasn’t supposed to be allergic to poodles, and truthfully I did pretty well with Molly except when I let her lick my face. That tended to cause hives and itchy eyes - but not the asthma, so I guess that was an improvement.
Look at that. I’ve managed to ramble on for almost six hundred words with out really talking about why I set California Schemin’ in California. The short answer? British Columbia Schemin’ just didn’t have the same ring to it.


Award winning writer, Kate George, is the author of Moonlighting in Vermont and California Schemin’ (due out March 1, 2011). She lives in Vermont with Dogs, kids, and currently, snow. You can reach her at www.kategeorge.com. Her books are available at www.mainlymurderpress.com, amazon.com or can be ordered from any bookstore.

Witchcraft for the Paranormal Author Workshop

It's that time again! I'm giving my popular workshop for authors and aspiring authors who want to have a witch character in their books. Come to the FFnP loop (no need to be a member) and sign up for my "Witchcraft for the Paranormal Author" Workshop, starting March 7th and running for 3 weeks. You'll have fun, and probably even learn something...

http://www.romance-ffp.com/event.cfm?EventID=272

I hope to see you there!


(Please pass the word to anyone you think might be interested.)

Live chat today at 5 PM EST

Hi all!

I was supposed to do a live chat from Pantheacon with the fabulous Brandi, from Llewellyn. Alas, we had technical difficulties, so that chat is now rescheduled for today (Wed) at 5 PM EST at the Llewellyn Author Chat site

http://www.ustream.tv/channel/llewellyn-author-chat

I hope you'll come join me. Feel free to ask be all those burning questions you've been saving up!

California Trip--Home again, thank goodness!

I will be doing a number of blogs about my recent trip to CA (San Diego and San Jose), since there is too much info to cover in just one. And, like, there are pictures.

For now, I would just like to say:
1) I am really happy to be home.
B) It was a great trip--everything I could have hoped for, on both legs of it.
And 2 and 3/4ths) OMG, I hate flying.

Addendums:

1A) Except for the snow, of course.
B+) No, really. It was fabulous.
And 3 and 4/5ths) Big kudos to Southwest for getting me (and everyone else) home and safe, even with unexpected plane changes, and multiple delays.

As they said in my favorite movie, The Princess Bride:
"I will esplain...no--it too much, I will sum up."

The trip in general went well. As most of you know, I was already planning to fly out to CA to visit with the family in San Diego, then fly on to San Jose for Pantheacon (the biggest Pagan convention in the country) and to see my step-daughter Jenn. Of course, then came the news that my beloved grandmother (Germambie) was dying, and things got--shall we say--more complicated.

Alas, I didn't make it out to SD in time to say my goodbyes while my grandmother was still alive. In fact, I missed her by THREE DAYS. She died on the 14th and I flew out on the 18th. But I was able to say my goodbyes in other ways, thanks to my mother, who kindly arranged for me to be able to visit my grandmother's body before she was cremated. This sounds a bit ghoulish, I know, but she looked as beautiful in death as she had in life, and only as if she was sleeping. I got to say the things I needed to say. Then the family--including my sister and fabulous brother in-law, who had flown out with me--got to spent two days together, which was very healing for us all. More on that tomorrow.

Then I flew out to PCon (more on that later as well), which was also wonderful.

And then I spent 150 years on a plane. No? Okay, maybe it just felt like it. But I left the hotel at 8:45 AM PST, got on the plane in San Jose for a trip that started at 10:10 AM, and got in at the airport at Albany at midnight, EST. In between, there were two unscheduled plane changes, a number of delays, and one cross-airport sprint. All of which was followed by the drive home (which I didn't have to do, thanks to my amazing pal JC) and an arrival at home at 2 AM.

And at that, I still feel lucky, since my Llewellyn editor and other folks had their flights cancelled, and may or may not have gotten home at all. So I'm recuperating from the trip, catching up with my 200+ emails, sucking up to the cats, and generally feeling grateful to be home.

It was wonderful to see everyone, and I promise a more detailed report on the rest of the trip tomorrow and the next day...when my brain has figured out what time zone I'm in...

Oh, and I finally got to meet my CP (critique partner) Lisa DiDio in person...and she ROCKS. Just sayin'.

Go in Peace, Germambie

My beloved grandmother slipped away quietly last night. It is fitting that she died on Valentine's Day, since she was one of the great loves of my life.

Go in peace, Germambie. I love you more than words can say.

Packing for Pantheacon

Packing for Pantheacon

As many of you already know, I’m getting ready to head out to San Jose, California to attend my third Pantheacon convention. Pantheacon is a huge four-day meet-up of Pagans from around the country, with total attendance of over 2,000. It is also so much fun, it should probably be illegal.

To begin with, Pantheacon is held at the Doubletree Hotel, which is simply a lovely place. They give you a warm chocolate chip cookie when you check in. ‘Nuff said. But that is just the beginning. Add in hundreds of workshops, rituals, and musical performances—some by famous (or semi-famous) authors, and some by everyday folk—and the chance to hang out with a bunch of people who believe more-or-less the same things I do, and it is a little slice of heaven.

Some of the highlights of this year’s trip are particularly special for me. I get to see my step-daughter Jenn, who moved out to San Jose last year (after attending Pantheacon with me for the second time). I also get to spend time with my main critique/writing partner, Lisa, who is taking the train down from her home in northern CA to join me. I am REALLY looking forward to that. And as always, the chance to hang out with my wonderful editor from Llewellyn, Elysia Gallo, is a major treat. Not to mention all the other fun authors I will see, and the chance to meet some of my fans in person. (I have fans. No, really.)

I will be taking part in three panels/workshops during Pantheacon, so if you’re going to be there, you have a few chances to catch me. Saturday night at 9PM, Llewellyn will be hosting a 110 year anniversary party and a “Meet the Authors” event. I will be there with lots of other great Llewellyn writers, and Elysia, of course. Also, I heard a rumor that there might be CAKE.

Here is the official description of the event:
When & Where: Saturday - 09:00 PM - Fir

Title: Llewellyn's 110th Anniversary Author Fair

Description: To celebrate our 110th year of independent metaphysical publishing, we're hosting a very special author event here at PantheaCon. Meet Llewellyn authors Mary K. Greer, Amber K, Azrael Arynn K, John Michael Greer, Oberon Zell-Ravenheart, Tess Whitehurst, Lon Milo DuQuette, Donald Michael Kraig, Deborah Blake, Alaric Albertsson, Melanie Marquis, Ruth Barrett and Jhenah Telyndru as they introduce their latest and forthcoming Llewellyn books. Share your ideas, questions, and suggestions with Llewellyn staff, and join us for mini-readings, book signings, light refreshments, door prizes and other goodies!

Presenter: Llewellyn Author Panel

Bio: Barring any scheduling conflicts, our featured authors will include John Michael Greer, Azrael Arynn K, Amber K, Donald Michael Kraig, Alaric Albertsson, Mary K. Greer, Tess Whitehurst, Deborah Blake, Melanie Marquis, Ruth Barrett, Lon Milo DuQuette, Oberon Zell-Ravenheart and Jhenah Telyndru. Llewellyn staff Elysia Gallo, Acquisitions Editor, and Brandi Palechek, Marketing Specialist, will emcee and handle prize drawings.



Sunday morning at 9 AM (which will probably seem early after staying up late the night before), there is a Llewellyn panel on “Publishing” which I will also be a part of. If you have any interest in writing for the Pagan audience, or are just curious about the way the whole thing works, you will want to come to that one.

Here is the official description of that one:
Title: Book Publishing 101

Description: Thinking of getting published? Don't miss this workshop! Get all your questions answered, including: how to submit your proposal, the timeline and the process, the money question, the agent question, covers and titles, publicity, and much more. Published authors Donald Michael Kraig, Lon Milo DuQuette, Amber K and Azrael Arynn K, Deborah Blake, Tess Whitehurst, and Alaric Albertsson will give you the author's perspective, while Elysia Gallo (acquisitions editor) and Brandi Palechek (marketing specialist) from Llewellyn Worldwide will provide information on acquisitions, publicity, marketing, and distribution from the perspective of a mid-sized publisher. Q & A will follow presentation.

Presenter: Publishing Panel hosted by Llewellyn Worldwide

Bio: Panel members include Elysia Gallo, Acquisitions Editor for Witchcraft, Paganism and Magick at Llewellyn; Brandi Palechek, Online Marketing Specialist at Llewellyn; and esteemed authors Donald Michael Kraig, Lon Milo DuQuette, Amber K and Azrael Arynn K, Deborah Blake, Tess Whitehurst, and Alaric Albertsson.


Sunday at 11AM, I will be doing my own workshop on “Spiritual Spring Cleaning” to help everyone prepare for the season to come. There will be a ritual with a banishing spell from the new Everyday Witch A to Z Spellbook, and I will be selling and signing books at the end of the session.

In between, I will be socializing, and going to workshops, and generally enjoying being in California for a few days, away from the nasty New York State weather. (Thank goodness for cat sitters!) I hope I’ll see a few of you there! Be sure and come by and tell me if you know me from the blog, or Facebook, or Twitter…

And just in case you didn’t believe I was really packing, here is the proof: