tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post7386096591015740661..comments2024-01-09T21:25:58.789-05:00Comments on Writing the Witchy Way: Living with Pain: Grace Under PressureDeborah Blakehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15329035354859726659noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-81667272418008909532013-05-21T07:00:32.158-04:002013-05-21T07:00:32.158-04:00Yes, I use that one too :-) What's more, it is...Yes, I use that one too :-) What's more, it is even true. *hugs*Deborah Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032614187237072683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-84170999122719316932013-05-20T22:30:20.192-04:002013-05-20T22:30:20.192-04:00As someone with a mood disorder, I deal with the c...As someone with a mood disorder, I deal with the cyclical ebb and flow of energy and emotion. The motto that most often pulls me through is "this too shall pass." I also frequently rely on the adage that I cannot choose what happens to me, only my response. Thank you for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-21356151634793070742013-05-19T00:38:42.532-04:002013-05-19T00:38:42.532-04:00Very good article. I definitely appreciate this si...Very good article. I definitely appreciate this site.<br />Thanks!<br /><br />Feel free to surf to my blog <a href="http://www.thebookshelfoperation.com/groups/wasserfeste-mp3-player-zum-schwimmen/" rel="nofollow">and second mortgages</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-32026037307879617982013-05-17T14:32:17.466-04:002013-05-17T14:32:17.466-04:00Many of the folks I've know with fibro seem to...Many of the folks I've know with fibro seem to be on the more sensitive end of the scale. I suspect that being sensitive in one area (psychic/emotional) means you are also more sensitive in the other (physical). Swell.Deborah Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032614187237072683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-70214414247802960282013-05-17T14:30:57.835-04:002013-05-17T14:30:57.835-04:00I get the tired bit too. Although I used to have c...I get the tired bit too. Although I used to have chronic fatigue syndrome too, and I'm never sure whether it is left over from that, or due to the fibro (or if they are both part of the same thing, which no one has ever figured out for sure).<br /><br />And major depression tends to go along with both of them, alas.Deborah Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032614187237072683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-7952409578069057442013-05-17T13:23:35.225-04:002013-05-17T13:23:35.225-04:00I have Fibro, and I've been told I'm an em...I have Fibro, and I've been told I'm an empath. I've never thought to link the two! I'll have to look into that.<br /><br />I wish you well also, that you continue the best you are able and more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-47956399133385255662013-05-17T08:19:03.431-04:002013-05-17T08:19:03.431-04:00Alison--I get migraines too; you have my sympathy....Alison--I get migraines too; you have my sympathy. I've always had some headaches, but the last couple of years menopause has really ramped them up. I hope yours get better! *hugs*Deborah Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032614187237072683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-14452877341625566832013-05-17T07:26:43.689-04:002013-05-17T07:26:43.689-04:00I've also been Dx with fibro, and several othe...I've also been Dx with fibro, and several other auto-immune disorders. I've had little trouble over the past few years, thanks to taking a really holistic approach. That's not to say that it will work for everyone, nor that I have no pain ever. Neither would be true. <br /><br />I do, however, think that the auto-immune disorders are linked to my being an empath. Figuring that out has been the biggest boon to improvement for myself. I've learned to ground and center, daily, and find that its more important than anything else I do. And, also to constantly consider whether the feelings and sensations I'm having are mine or others. <br /><br />I wish you wellness and improved circumstances. Like you, I've had the situation of learning to deal with and sometimes ignore the pain, being desensitized to it after so long. <br /><br />Blessed be.fearless_fallen_angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052576534937970205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-92228092309385183482013-05-17T07:19:47.532-04:002013-05-17T07:19:47.532-04:00Ah, man. I'm another Fibro sufferer, though I...Ah, man. I'm another Fibro sufferer, though I get more the side of the soul-crushing /fatigue/ than real pain. My best friend, on the other hand, when she's in flare, she can barely wear clothes because her very skin is on fire, she's in so much pain. Some days, it's nearly impossible to be any kind of graceful (for me too, when I'm so exhausted and easily irritable and out of it that I almost can't even see straight to work, when I ache so badly and I'm so tired I feel /sick/), but I do what I have to do, and I remind myself to think of others and how my actions and attitude will affect them, what messages I'm sending. Whatever /I'm/ going through, it's not fair to them to take it out on them, be they friends or coworkers. And yeah, I have a few (like my BF who's also a fellow sufferer) to whom I can bitch and whine and complain to my heart's content just to get it out of my system when I need to - and I am available for the same from them. You get it out, you release the ugly energies that have built up, and you get on again with things.<br /><br />And, of course, I'm speaking really only of physical pain. I can't begin to relate to what Bryan or your other two friends are going through. I am also a sufferer of clinical major depression, but I know that's nowhere near the same thing.<br /><br />There was a time in my life when someone gave me . . . you know those plastic/rubbery wristbands people have made for various causes or messages in general. This one was bright yellow and from the Lance Armstrong Foundation. Granted, that's for cancer sufferers and survivors, but I took to it like crazy at the time and have still never forgotten it. It said "Live Strong". That's what I try to do. Sometimes it's all I can cling to - Live Strong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-1455670933445348882013-05-17T06:54:00.518-04:002013-05-17T06:54:00.518-04:00Your writing really struck a chord with me, you wr...Your writing really struck a chord with me, you write so beautifully. The first comment on here too has got me thinking. I suffer from chronic daily migraine and I know I'm horrid be around some of the time. Your attitude is wonderful and I will try and be more like you. Migraine triggers are very similar too, mine are very much weather and hormones at the moment! blessings to you for a lesser pain day! Alison xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07881364834752476550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-38600526391795447912013-05-16T15:00:15.373-04:002013-05-16T15:00:15.373-04:00Breathe is good too! And you're working hard a...Breathe is good too! And you're working hard and getting better at getting things done.<br /><br />I have to admit, this particular flare-up has made me want to curl up and whimper too. But I have too much to get done :-)Deborah Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032614187237072683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-88147391624602919422013-05-16T14:59:14.451-04:002013-05-16T14:59:14.451-04:00Well, it depends which day it is...and how much ch...Well, it depends which day it is...and how much chocolate I have :-)Deborah Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032614187237072683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-1230498992769640842013-05-16T14:58:43.542-04:002013-05-16T14:58:43.542-04:00I often have to remind myself to actually breathe ...I often have to remind myself to actually breathe deeply. Pain has a tendency to make your entire body clench without you realizing it.<br /><br />Deborah Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032614187237072683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-5852077932494151532013-05-16T14:54:10.105-04:002013-05-16T14:54:10.105-04:00Melissa, you have my sympathy. Fibro sucks :-) I o...Melissa, you have my sympathy. Fibro sucks :-) I once had a pharmacist (of all people) fill a pain prescription for me and say, "You don't look like you're sick." Really dude? What does a sick person look like?<br /><br />Hang in there, and just ignore the ignorant folks...Deborah Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032614187237072683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-18170648202254217972013-05-16T14:51:12.330-04:002013-05-16T14:51:12.330-04:00Jen--I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I...Jen--I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I'm pretty sure that if you ask the folks who knew me back in the day, they would tell you I was pretty miserable in the beginning (you know, like the first seven or eight years). But I got tired of being the downer in the room. Maybe your husband will too?<br /><br />In the meanwhile, big hugs from me. Being a caregiver is TOUGH. (Like I said, my two friends whose husbands are ill are suffering almost as much as they are.)Deborah Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032614187237072683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-12848165657484619352013-05-16T13:42:51.361-04:002013-05-16T13:42:51.361-04:00You amaze me, how much you can get done given the ...You amaze me, how much you can get done given the pain and the tiredness and everything. Not sure I got that much done when I wasn't dealing with so much myself. And I don't have that much pain on a daily basis. However, I am in a fibro flare that is getting worse (weather, stress, who knows) and all I want to do is curl up into a little ball of pain and whimper. But I will take my inspiration from you and push myself and think of grace under pressure and "I choose healthy and happy". <br /><br />Mostly I just say "breathe!" :)Skyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02353637836935659079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-8091128918687933522013-05-16T12:47:43.943-04:002013-05-16T12:47:43.943-04:00It takes alot of courage to live with chronic pain...It takes alot of courage to live with chronic pain gracefully, and alot of grace to live with it courageously. Clearly you have both in abundance.Ashlinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056573219551250815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-40128422510967119782013-05-16T12:44:50.080-04:002013-05-16T12:44:50.080-04:00I have not been faced with personally having to de...I have not been faced with personally having to deal with chronic pain, but do have family members with MS and young onset Parkinson's and an important lesson I have learned from them is that they make the best of what they have within the limits of their physical condition. They have not removed themselves from life and the people around them but have found ways to still use their talents and skills to be contributors to the world. <br /><br />You obviously have worked long and hard on making choices that help you be in control of how you deal with what happens in your life. That's a life lesson we can all take to heart. <br /><br />And I'll pass along my husband's mantra for helping to deal with pain - diaphragmatic breathing (which you probably already do.)<br /><br />Thanks for the thoughtful post.<br /><br /><br />Cathy Mnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-65064033153611467162013-05-16T12:41:37.607-04:002013-05-16T12:41:37.607-04:00I have fibromyalgia as well. It is difficult to de...I have fibromyalgia as well. It is difficult to deal with the pain but I find it more difficult to deal with peope who say it's all in my head. I think you said it perfectly. It's all about attitude and choices. I choose to fight and to be as positive as I can be.The God/dess helps keep me on track. Thank you for sharing this. You are truly an inspiration. Blessed Be.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10999528039507072379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5118905778148213851.post-17980811024013954162013-05-16T10:16:30.129-04:002013-05-16T10:16:30.129-04:00I love your article, my husband has herniated disc...I love your article, my husband has herniated discs as well as nerve pain from diabetes and will be in pain for the rest of his life. People forget that it isn't just those who are in pain that suffer, our marriage has been severely tried because of the pain meds he's been on, our sex life, and the fact that he barely talks to me when he's in pain; and sometimes that's every single day. I wish my husband would put a positive face on it, but he comes home and when he's in pain he's nice to the kids and ignores or snips at me. I'm going to try and take what your wrote for me, because though my body isn't in pain, my heart has been broken for the past 4 years. Pagan Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04926011338270223389noreply@blogger.com